Is it ok for a wife and mom to have a job outside the home?
Wow. That's a hot button topic.
But let me suggest that tackling that question from a Biblical standpoint actually starts at a different point. Let me explain.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?" I cannot tell you how many times my children have been asked this question. It's a really common question in America. It seems like a sweet, innocent conversation starter with a child. A doctor, a lawyer, a firefighter, a dentist, a mommy... Kids give all kinds of answers to that question. And in that one little conversation a simple thought has been accidentally reinforced: I am in control and I choose. That's not exactly what we want to teach our children, is it? They certainly may have the capabilities of being a doctor or lawyer or whatever their hearts latch onto, but there is a bigger message here... an opportunity we often miss.
I asked my son, Gabriel, this question this morning. I haven't asked this in a long time. I was wondering how he would respond.
"If the Lord wills, I would like to be a pastor. But I want to be whatever He wants me to be." His exact words.
Whatever ***HE*** wants me to be...
This sweet, little 10 year old boy has learned a very valuable lesson even at his young age.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."
He has learned he doesn't belong to himself. His life is not his own. He has a desire in his heart, but knows he belongs to God. The beauty of it is that he trusts God's decisions. He trusts that God will not lead him down a path of misery and being deprived. He trusts that God will lead him down a path and give him joy and peace no matter what that path may hold. He trusts God's purpose in it all. So he is leaving the decision of what he is going to be up to God. Wow! What faith!
Are we willing to say that? "God, whatever you want. I have dreams, goals, and desires, but if they don't match up with your will for my life, I will lay those things aside."
Philippians 3:7-8 "But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ. Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss
for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ, "
So really when dealing with this question of "should a wife/mom have a job/career outside the home" the first place to start is does it matter to you what God wants? And do you trust Him? If you can trust Him with your eternal salvation, can't you trust Him with your day-to-day life?
If those things don't matter, then the rest of this study is not for you. Your heart isn't open. You are not willing to submit, and there is nothing I can type that's going to make a difference.
If you are willing to dig into God's Word and say, "Whatever you want, Lord. I belong to you," then together we can embrace what God has for us in His Word about this topic.
Proverbs 3:5 "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths."
Want to read more in this study? Heart at Home Mom by Charity Woon on Amazon