When I think of being the weaker vessel, I always remember something a friend once did. He was at the bank. He was about to head through the door when he saw a woman approach the same door. He stepped to the side and held the door open for her. She quickly snapped, “I can get it myself, thank you!” To which he replied, “I’m sorry. I thought you were a lady.”
The quick wit and honesty of my friend still makes me giggle! Why did this woman find it so offensive when a gentleman wanted to hold the door for her? He was simply showing her honor. But being seen as the weaker vessel is offensive to some. Yes, she could have easily opened that door herself. It certainly wasn’t a heavy iron wall. But how often do we make our husbands feel unwanted or unneeded because we want to prove we can be independent?
Women are not pitiful little glass ornaments. We have strength… a different kind of strength. I shouldn’t need to show off my physical prowess to impress anyone or to make men feel unimportant. Some women will kill themselves trying to open a jar just so they can say they did it. Me? I gladly save time and just hand the jar over to my son or my husband. I have nothing to prove. My strength shines when a child is sick all night and I stay up to help. My strength is shown when I have had a long day teaching the kids and I still have to make dinner. My strength was definitely shown when I gave birth to children in the 10 pound range!
So go ahead and carry the groceries for me… go ahead and hold that door for me… I may need the strength I have to tend to a child tonight.
This verse really gives a swift kick in the shins to those who think the husband being the head of the home is really just dictatorship. Dictators don’t honor those under their power. They certainly don’t respect the weak. And the REALLY don’t recognize others as being equals and “joint heirs.”
1 Peter 3:7 “Likewise, ye husbands…” Wait… This verse isn’t for us. It’s written to husbands, right? Well, yes… but…
What could a verse written to husbands possibly ever have for the wives to learn something? This verse is to husbands… can’t we just skip it?
This verse has so much in it for wives, I couldn’t possibly cover it in one post! Maybe not even in two or three!
Names and situations have been altered to protect the identity of those involved…
Betty and Bob were struggling in their marriage. (This is a different Betty and Bob from the last scenario.) They wanted to do what was right, so they sought biblical counsel. Jason and I were happy to help.
Betty kept very good control of her emotions and spoke calmly. She began to lay out the charges against her husband. “… and he never brings me flowers or anything like that.”
The names of the following have been changed to protect their identity… why? I have no idea! Ha!
Bob and Betty had not been married long. Bob had a cute name for Betty. He called her “munchkin” and she loved it. But Betty wanted a name to call Bob, too. She thought about it and couldn’t come up with anything. Betty soon approached Bob.
“You have a cute name to call me, but what should I call you?”