I am just blown away by God's creation of woman. I do not comprehend women who feel slighted or offended by the Biblical creation of woman and her purpose. Think about it...
- She was the last thing God made.
- She was specifically designed for a purpose... because man was lonely and it wasn't good!
- She was created to be a helper. That's not offensive. The Holy Spirit, our "paraklete," is our Helper. Paraklete literally means one called along side to help. It's a high honor!
- She was created with a specific skill set that makes her vital.
- She was given a task that mirrors the very heart of Christ, that of a servant... one who selflessly sacrifices for the good of others.
I absolutely love being a woman! What gets in the way, though, is selfishness.
The past several months, I started something new to help me try to help my husband better. Some mornings I literally walk up to him and ask, "What can I do for you today to help you?" That small act of servanthood has revolutionized my role as a helper and in turn it has also helped strengthen my relationship with my husband. (Wish I had started this years ago!) He is always encouraged by me asking. Every time I ask, a tenderness washes over him in a wave. He knows I care.
This morning as I sat down to do my devotions, I went in with the mindset of, "Lord, help me serve my husband better." Then I read I Peter 3:7.
1 Peter 3:7 "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."
Well, how am I supposed to serve my husband better when the verse is clearly talking about him serving me?!
Actually, if I know what tasks my husband is to do, it helps me help him! If I know he has to preach, having his clothes ironed for him helps. If I know he has to leave the house early, I know I need to make breakfast early. If I know he has a lot of physical labor scheduled for the day, I know I need to prepare food that will help him get the work done. So what are his tasks?
- Dwell with me according to knowledge.
How can I help with this task? Make myself easy to know! Communicate with him, and don't make him have to be a mind reader.
- Give honour to me as the weaker vessel.
It helps him help me when I admit I need his help. If I have a determined, independent spirit who will not allow others to minister to my needs, it will hinder my husband in his role. Our culture has glorified the masculine, tough girl persona, but God has magnified the meek and quiet spirit. He says it's of great price.
- Give honour to me as being heirs together of the grace of life.
The Bible makes it clear that the husband and wife are one in this life of grace. We are to be unified as a team. One person isn't better than the other person, or more valuable. We have different roles, but the same goals... glorifying God and growing in Christ. How can I help my husband in this area? Stop being competitive with him and stop being jealous of his role or how God blesses him. We are here to lift each other up, not use each other's heads as stepping stones to something better. Again, our culture has glorified the competitive spirit. God glorifies the servant spirit, the one that puts others first.